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Is it an age thing, a generation thing? Or does it depend on the place, the people?
Whatever the reason, I am now doing it.
It’s easy to talk to strangers here in Hobart. As we walk down the street in our suburb, or along the beach, almost everyone acknowledges each other with a “Good morning” or “G’day” or at least a nod and a smile. When you see a familiar face, the interaction expands to a few sentences about the day or the weather.
As my daughter rightly pointed out on our recent holiday together, before we event got on the plane, “Mum, you are getting like Nan!”. I’d started speaking to the couple in front of us in the check-in queue.
I always thought my Mum had a knack for chatting to strangers, getting to know their life stories in a few minutes, finding that they knew someone who knew someone that she knew. Small world. But perhaps that is just small town life, away from the big city rat race.
I travelled to London for years, catching the same commuter train, seeing the same faces day in and day out, yet we never spoke, hardly acknowledged each other, just vied for a seat and concentrated on our newspaper or book.
As we moved to a new place, without knowing anyone here, with no work connections, we’ve had to talk to strangers. Otherwise Aussie Mate and I would just be talking to each other and the walls.
It’s easy to start a conversation. I stop and chat to neighbours when collecting post from our mail boxes. I invite people in for a cup of coffee. I organised a “meet your neighbour” picnic out in our small communal garden, as several neighbours said they didn’t know anyone in our unit block. Fourteen people shared a drink and snacks over interesting conversations, in the weekend sunshine. Retirees met university students, Tassie’s met a family from South Korea, here for a year work exchange. I was pleased that I’d initiated the gathering.
The online community has been a treasured means of communication, commenting on blog posts, enjoying conversations, getting to know people through their words and photos.
I’ve met locals who blog or participate in the Photo A Day challenge. We’ve recognised photos of local places, chatted online and now meet in person as friendship blossoms.
Whilst visiting Perth recently, I met up with a fellow blogger, Rosemary from “Le Chic en Rose”. We have similarities in our lives with daughters on both sides of the world, parents back in the UK. We enjoyed a lovely morning with tea and pastries. It was good to share thoughts that don’t get into our blogs.
So yes, I’ll carry on talking to strangers.
I think it is kind of an age-thing combined with a life out of stress and big cities. Nice to make new friends.
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Yes Lena, it is good to make new friends and keep up long distance friendships.
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Yes, nothing beats a smile and a chat, meeting new people and starting conversations with strangers who could so easily become friends. I live in a small country like town and enjoy the same close knit feel here. I love it, it’s so different to inner city Melbourne. Great post.
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Thanks Miriam. Small town life is definitely appealing.
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Most definitely.
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People are fascinating, really. They all have stories to tell. Keep it up, Ruth. Cheers! Meg
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Thanks Meg
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Oh I’d like to share tea and pastries and catch up!
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If we get to your part of the world, that would be lovely, Ruth.
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I love striking up conversations with strangers. I think we are losing the art of conversation to some degree, everyone is stuck with their nose in their phone.
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I agree Lynn 🙂
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Good points. I think it’s partly age and partly place, and not just small town vs city. Glaswegians chat whether they know each other or not; Londoners don’t. My niece, a confident, out-going young woman, is mortified by this behaviour when she visits. I also notice when out walking in Scotland hikers always greet each other. In England, less so.
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Thanks for your comments Annabel. The differences between places just a few hundred miles apart is fascinating.
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What a fantastic thing to do for your neighbours – well done Ruth.
You certainly have that happy personalty that makes others come out of their own space and start joining in.
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What a lovely compliment Claudette. Thank you x
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What a lovely idea the “meet your neighbour” was Ruth. What I like about travel is the meeting of people and briefly sharing their life. I do tend to talk to random people too and I recently was introduced to the word and concept of “sonder” . This idea fascinates me. Take a look at the explanation in this link. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AkoML0_FiV4
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Oh Pauline. What a wonderful word and explanation. I love the idea of being an extra in other people’s lives, a conversation for a short while but an influence non the less. Thanks for sharing this.
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Isn’t it a lovely idea. We now look at people in a whole new light.
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Last night, Jo and I sat on the beach to watch the beautiful sunset. We sat about 6 feet from the water’s edge. It was a big night for beach walking, today being a public holiday and the weather so pleasant. The majority of a passers talked to us. We even struck up a long conversation with one of them. And we met 4 beautiful Hungarian Viszlas as well. It was wonderful.
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It’s so nice to stop and have a friendly word with people. Hope you’ve had better weather than us for public holiday. Cool and drizzle here.
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It’s been cooler but sadly, still minimal rain. We left the beach about one, just as sun was coming out.
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